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Shes pretty awesome, loves md sports, gorgeous, loves steak, loves the beach like me, isnt afraid to work, is driven, same religion, has awesome family. Shes basically like a 10 on every scale. Shes definitely not marrying me for my money. I have like 10 bucks and season tickets. Im marrying her for her money. shes got like 12 bucks and a saturn ion.

Only real issue
She has a beagle dog and wants it to live in the house. I live in the country and believe dogs are for outside. The lick their buttholes they should stay outside. We have had this argument so many times = Im going to let the dog live inside.

1.) that's is what will happen at wedding showers, rehearsal, and the wedding. Go out with your boys and have a good time.

2.) that usually happens once kids hit the picture not before, and p90x like she mentioned is not bad either to help that from happening.

3.) Taking a active role in anything with your wife is a good idea, and sharing any chores are also a good idea. If she cooks you clean the dishes type thing. Who ever is home first cooks in our house, and that has changed over the years depending on jobs and now work out schedules and day care.

4.) Hanging with your friends should always be aloud, but know your limits. Also expect to start hanging with more couples and doing couples things if that hasn't happened to you already. Crashing at your friends houses sounds like a bad idea and a good way to have a short marriage to me.

5.) that depends on your age, and her age. Kids and money are two very important things in a marriage, and should probably be talked about before hand, but know things and people change. We agreed on 5 years, but had our first at 3. She was ready, and I had no reason to say no. But I have seen this as a problem in friends marriages and it is worse than money issues.

6.) Do the p 90 x thing and Try to eat healthy as a family it will make a difference.

I have actually got season tickets to football and basketball as birthday and Christmas presents since we have been married every year. She knows sports are a big deal, and actually encouages it. I hang out my boys at the games and she goes and sees her friends and parents. It is a win win.

You have no decision making power in #1-6, but you're in charge in the other stuff. So, let that be your guide to the next "90 years."*

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*ha ha, don't worry, you have no chance of living very long once you're married. You know that female praying mantis bite the head off thing? It's a real thing.

Trust issues before the marriage begins don't magically disappear after the vows.

Corrected for the record.

Sounds more like "I've never cheated but there are still trust issues."

If your kid cuckys in the trash can and she is willing to clean it out, it will be a long and happy marriage.

If this woman is your first wife don't worry about questions 2 through 6, you can always fix things when it's time for the next one.

Re: going to MD games. My personal experience has been that the more ridiculous your pre-marriage capital investment (e.g. trailers, buses, condos in almamaterville, bodacious season tix, etc), the less likely she will try to reel in your attendance.

I feel like my gf frequently gets upset when I want to do things on my own-- golf, biking, watch sports, etc. I think she interprets it as I don't want to spend time w her. It just seems like if there's any free time, I have to spend it with her or I get chewed out for it. I'm pretty much screwed right? Should I run, or just give up the things I like to do and spend time w her?

Run away now.

She also complains a lot that I always do what I want, and never what she wants. Like "she's along for the ride, dragged along." one time she said she felt like "the little sister" tagging along. I think she's got control issues. Like she wants to be in control of the relationship, but I do things like I'm still a single person, and she gets really annoyed by it.

I used to get this from my ex all the time. The problem was that she never had any ideas for anything she wanted to do (or the stuff she wanted to do was stuff you do alone, like drawing), so when we did things they were always my ideas - and those things usually involved cool stuff like DC United, Maryland basketball, or Caps games. Pretty soon she just stopped coming along, and poof, no more marriage.

I'm luckier/smarter now, and I have a fiancee who is a 10 in every way, most notably because she not only is always game to do the things I like to do, but also comes up with ideas for things I'd actually want to do anyway.