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How interested is this chick?

  • Basically, on Friday we have this after work party where I intern. My cousin works for the same organization but in a different department. My cousin tells me her, and all the other girls in her department think their intern and I would be "cute together". Whatever, cool. She introduces me to her intern and we hit it off. We hangout throughout the party and get inappropriately drunk together and play volleyball and bocce ball and shit. The party is over and she invites me to go with her to meet up with some of her friends at a bar down the street. I oblige. We hangout and it's cool and she's great. The one girl there must not know her very well and tells us that we remind her of a couple that she went to undergrad with. She just smiles at me and doesn't say anything to the other girl. She asks me for my number and of course I oblige. We go our separate ways at the end of the night. I'm trying to do this thang like a gentleman.

    So, I've been texting her all weekend and she's just kind of not that responsive or doesn't seem as pumped on the whole situation. Wtf could I have done or wtf is this chick's problem? I mean, it's not like she's refusing contact but the level of enthusiasm now between when we met is off to me.

    And don't just "women are crazy /thread" me, either.

    "I suffered through the Boller years and nearly a decade of offensive futility." -Bmorechil

    ccterp ●

  • Sounds like she wants a drunk buddy. If the opening around of texts isn't getting a good response, I'd just move on. If you see her again by chance, so be it.

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  • ccterp said...

    She asks me for my number and of course I oblige.

    There's your problem right there.

    ravensnterps ●

  • ccterp said...

    Basically, on Friday we have this after work party where I intern. My cousin works for the same organization but in a different department. My cousin tells me her, and all the other girls in her department think their intern and I would be "cute together". Whatever, cool. She introduces me to her intern and we hit it off. We hangout throughout the party and get inappropriately drunk together and play volleyball and bocce ball and shit. The party is over and she invites me to go with her to meet up with some of her friends at a bar down the street. I oblige. We hangout and it's cool and she's great. The one girl there must not know her very well and tells us that we remind her of a couple that she went to undergrad with. She just smiles at me and doesn't say anything to the other girl. She asks me for my number and of course I oblige. We go our separate ways at the end of the night. I'm trying to do this thang like a gentleman.

    So, I've been texting her all weekend and she's just kind of not that responsive or doesn't seem as pumped on the whole situation. Wtf could I have done or wtf is this chick's problem? I mean, it's not like she's refusing contact but the level of enthusiasm now between when we met is off to me.

    And don't just "women are crazy /thread" me, either.

    Stalk her and show up at her house uninvited with a big stuffed heart. She'll be way into you after that.

    This post was edited by GQCoolest on 7/16/2012 at 1:54 PM

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  • pugsley said...

    TITCR. Stop texting her. If she's actually interested, she'll wonder why you stopped and come to you.

    gocaps1

  • Do you have a friend named Brian? If so, go hang out with him.

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  • gocaps1 said...

    TITCR. Stop texting her. If she's actually interested, she'll wonder why you stopped and come to you.

    I agree here. I'd pass on any small talk texts until she starts texting you again. My advice would be to only text if you have something specific going on where you'd ask if she wanted to join you and/or meet up.

    mamuchias

  • "I also like your hair and your face and your breasts."

    This post has been edited 2 times, most recently by Fwah Grah on 7/16/2012 at 2:03 PM

    Fwah Grah ●

  • First time drinking?

    TheGreenBastard

  • Should have brought her orange slices.

    theaman

  • gocaps1 said...

    TITCR. Stop texting her. If she's actually interested, she'll wonder why you stopped and come to you.

    Right, the whole, don't be TOO available (hard to get-ish) bit. That's what she could be playing, or she's just not that responsive in general or isn't, as you said, as interested...

    ...this coming from someone (moi) who doesn't play the game well at all...

    jt4424 ●

  • Certain rules, here, that if broken will always lead to failure:

    1) NEVER give a girl your number unless you have her number first. Girls who are interested are waiting for you to ask for their number. If you don't do it then even if they had a great time she will be sitting around wondering why the fuck your pussy ass didn't ask for her number and they'll come up with all sorts of conclusions about how you aren't worth the time because you have no balls.

    2) NEVER let the first communication after getting a girls number be a text. You got her number. Call.

    ravensnterps ●

  • Just tell her you go to Maryland, don't know anybody and ask her to have sex.

    I heard it works flawlessly.

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    jtpterp ●

  • aschaefe said...

    Do you have a friend named Brian? If so, go hang out with him.

    LOL

    This. Exactly this.

    "I suffered through the Boller years and nearly a decade of offensive futility." -Bmorechil

    ccterp ●

  • I love text messaging and emails as a preferred form of communication, but there seem to be two forms of it-- (a) over the top, or (b) normal communication that is probably going to be misinterpreted as apathy.

    Why not just ask her to go out and you'll find out in person whether she's interested? I mean, I sucked at dating but that just seems like kind of a no-brainer to me.

    MisterSmiley ●

  • ravensnterps said...

    Certain rules, here, that if broken will always lead to failure:

    1) NEVER give a girl your number unless you have her number first. Girls who are interested are waiting for you to ask for their number. If you don't do it then even if they had a great time she will be sitting around wondering why the fuck your pussy ass didn't ask for her number and they'll come up with all sorts of conclusions about how you aren't worth the time because you have no balls.

    2) NEVER let the first communication after getting a girls number be a text. You got her number. Call.

    Can't some light, flirtacious text messages that are followed up relatively quickly by a call be somewhat successful too?

    jt4424 ●

  • ravensnterps said...

    2) NEVER let the first communication after getting a girls number be a text. You got her number. Call.

    lol

    Maybe in 1993, old man. This is 2012 and I'm 23. It is PERFECTLY acceptable to make the first communication text.

    Also, the my not asking for her number first is kind of a weird situation. Like, we were in the middle of drinking and hanging out and she just kind of asked out of the blue. I was talking to her friend and she tapped me on the shoulder with her phone out and asked me what my # was. It was kind of weird.

    "I suffered through the Boller years and nearly a decade of offensive futility." -Bmorechil

    ccterp ●

  • okay so things aren't going so well, maybe its time for the home run swing: dickpic.

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  • ccterp said...

    lol

    Maybe in 1993, old man. This is 2012 and I'm 23. It is PERFECTLY acceptable to make the first communication text.

    Also, the my not asking for her number first is kind of a weird situation. Like, we were in the middle of drinking and hanging out and she just kind of asked out of the blue. I was talking to her friend and she tapped me on the shoulder with her phone out and asked me what my # was. It was kind of weird.

    You can work your way out of the text hole, sure, but believe me 100% calling is the better option. Mainly because any of the other 100 dudes who have her number are texting her, but no one is calling. If anything, calling is MORE effective now.

    ravensnterps ●

  • I agree, fwiw.

    You're half-assing it and left wondering.

    Make your intentions clearer, and risk that she will too. At least you'll know one way or the other.

    sgii ●

  • I think HER asking for HIS number is a sign that she has interest. At least she did.

    But I agree, phone calls are becoming like handwritten notes are to email, so it seems.

    Of course, I hate talking on the phone, but I guess you have to do what you have to do.

    jt4424 ●

  • I don't think you need to call her, but don't see why you wouldn't just ask her if she wants to go out this weekend before writing her off as unenthusiastic. Maybe she's getting less enthusiastic in her texts because she feels that she sent you all the right signals when you were together and in her initial texts and you're just putzing around with your texts without having asked her out yet. She doesn't need another lame text-buddy, she needs some orange slices.

    MisterSmiley ●

  • Agreed with Smiley. Everything thus far has been fine, but you need to make the bolder move and call and find out where you stand. I would agree that it sounds like she at least had some initial interest and is waiting for you to make the next move. The vast majority of women still want the guy to be assertive and forward (i.e., man up and call me and ask me out, bitch).

    gmanterps ●

  • ccterp said...

    So, I've been texting her all weekend and she's just kind of not that responsive or doesn't seem as pumped on the whole situation. Wtf could I have done or wtf is this chick's problem? I mean, it's not like she's refusing contact but the level of enthusiasm now between when we met is off to me.

    I sincerely do not mean this to come off as being an asshole..

    ..but you're being a bitch, dude.

    You barely know her, she had been drinking, and if your texts to her were overly enthusiastic (much like the tone of this thread), you quite possibly have freaked her out.

    Should've closed the deal on the drunk sex that night. She was possibly looking for a random hook-up, and your relationship tone could be off-putting to her.

    I would just back off, wait a while between responses.. see if she escalates the interest on her end. Sounds like you're screwed to me, though. Good luck.

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